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Patterns of children’s temper tantrums are a myriad mix of emotions and communication gap. Many studies about challenging behaviour exhibited by children highlight that the vocalisation involved in tantrums – including screaming, shrieking and wailing – follow a rhythm and are almost like a circadian graph showing peaks and valleys.
Parents usually feel perturbed by a child’s tantrums. Some completely ignore the cause behind it. Either way, it does not help stop tantrums. Instead, parents must delve into the science behind a shout or a wail and bring about a balanced approach to tackle tantrums.
The University of Minnesota and University of Connecticut recorded vocal evidence of more than 100 temper tantrums. When researchers replayed the audio, they discovered that specific tantrum patterns, like yelling and screaming, went hand in hand.
Meltdowns began in anger and ended in sadness with cries and whimpers. The spurt in tantrums by urban children has often been equated with a rise in modern technology and lack of parent-child ‘connect.’
A recent TIME Magazine article speaks of a study on how digital technology interrupts the bond between a parent and a child, leading to unending episodes of tantrums.
A child’s social and emotional skills develop between 1-3 years. Children often don’t have words to express big emotions. They want more independence but fear being separated from parents. Such confusion leads to tantrums. It is a natural and normal instinct. Do not overreact.
As the child grows, self-regulation comes automatically when they can manage behaviour and reactions.